[ for all the {single} ladies out there. ]

   Hey ladies.

   I'm sure when talking about future husbands [f.h.], we've all heard the phrase "the one". Like you've gotta wait for "the one", or "the one" is out there somewhere.

   I'm just gonna call a tampon a tampon and say this is crap. And it's not even biblical.

   There are no references in the Bible that say there is only one guy out there.

   Given the fact that we all have the right of free choice, meaning we can make any choice we want, go down any road we want, who's to say that guy is going to choose the same thing and be down there waiting for you somewhere?

   We stress ourselves out by thinking that God is limited to one plan. That we're then limited to one plan. I believe that within our callings and our identities, we all have different paths we can take that are still within His will.

   The same goes with f.h.'s.

   I don't think we should limit ourselves, or God for that matter, to one man.

   I mean no pressure.

   What if you make a mistake? What if you happen to make a different turn, and he doesn't? You're screwed. And I guess you'll never find the right one. Bummer dude.

   With whatever we choose in life, there will be someone down that road. I believe there are several great guys out there that I could easily end up with in my life one day, and each one of them would be just as great as the other.

   So stop stressing out about it.

   You're given desires within your heart for a reason. There's a reason why we're attracted to certain people. Because we're allowed to make our own decisions.

   Some of you are freaking out and having an identity crises by me saying that.

   OH DEAR LORD WE CAN MAKE OUR OWN CHOICES.

   Yes, yes.

   Obviously, there are stories of people who look for someone they are attracted to, they fall in love, they get married, and have an amazing life. Awesome. And then there are those stories where people who you'd never guess would get together, fall in love, and also have an amazing life. Also awesome. So either way, they made their choices, and they both had great marriages.

   Contrary to what so many believe, I don't think God wants us to be slaves -- but rather for us to operate out of a place of friendship. [Interested? Read "Supernatural Ways of Royalty" by Kris Vallotton.]

   Meaning, we can make our own decisions that God actually agrees with. We're supposed to have the minds of Christ anyway, you know. [1 Corinthians 2:16] But that's a whole other post..

   So here's the nitty gritty: there are men out there, living their lives, and each day you somewhat get closer to meeting one of them. Who knows if you'll actually end up with that one or the next one that comes along. What matters is that you choose who you actually love, who you actually think is smokin' hot [oh my], who has good standards, good morale, and a steadfast heart in Him -- and who you'd actually see yourself spending the rest of your life with.

   There. It's out.

   I realized how tired I was of that stupid myth of "the one" and had to do something about it.

   All I can say is that I'm pretty stoked about meeting my f.h. that I'll end up with someday.